Well, Linda pretty much summed it up. She has become such a bad ass, and I love it!!!
I know how much you admire and respect UR, so I think you can see how your posting seemed a bit harsh and judgemental.
Standing is hard, no doubt. It is also as individual of as choice as the people and experiences surrounding it.
I can say that personally, UR has been my biggest cheerleader. My beacon of hope when things seemed darkest.
There were times when she would say - TVS, I worry about you. This is taking it's toll on you. You can't sacrifice you.
She was/is right.
If I ever get to that point where I'm "done", I'll know I did everything that I could to save my marriage. That, to me, is taking your vows seriously. I'm not TVS for nothing!
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The no physical intimacy is so difficult. I know.
There was an interesting conversation about this on the alt - do women and men view this differently? Does a woman need emotional intimacy before physical intimacy and vice versa for men?
Keep finding ways to connect with her emotionally FY. Not just spend time together doing an activity, but not really connecting. Think. Think of things that may draw you two closer.
Or as someone very wise has told me, numerous times, show her the possibilities of what could be...
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
