What is my Next Move?

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"she's confused and needs him to understand..."

Understand what? It's also naive for her to say that she's not going to have sex with him. As if that is going to make you feel better.

If you can't kick her out due to your current situation. I suggest that you don't be home when she returns. Go and take your kids somewhere on a trip. FAR away. Leave a note for her telling her that you will be gone a few days and leave it at that.

If she tries to text or call you, ignore them all. Concentrate on your kids.

I am not communicating while she is away...my kids s21 and S16 refuse to as well.

Thing is my S16 will be right smack in the beginning of finals...when she returns...