What is my Next Move?

[Oxford1]

I am so worried that when she goes to a Israel she will fall deeper for OM
And when she returns we will be done.

If it were my wife, I would be "done" REGARDLESS of whether or not she fell more deeply for him. Simply GOING would be enough for ME to decide that *I* was done!!!

Why is she doing this to you? For the same reason that dogs lick themselves. Sorry to be so blunt Oxford, but your weakness is no doubt a huge turn-off for your wife at this point. You can stand up strong to her and still lose her, that is true -- there are no guarantees. But I can pretty much GUARANTEE you that if you DON'T . . . you WILL lose her.

Your wife will begin respecting your marriage as soon as you do.


Starsky

By strong do you mean...I move out, throw her out...or demand she not go...I tried the demand part..

Did not work to well...