I think it is grossly unfair to come down hard on FY with this. Jeez, I personally wouldn't be able to endure a sexless M for a long duration. Isn't that what two people come together in a marriage...to unite in love and be united in a sexual unison as partners.
From my view, it is patently clear to me that FY truly does love his W. It is outrageous to suggest that FY is using a sex yardstick in standing for his M. That is NOT the case at all from his threads.
To demean and degrade FY's innermost desire to have an intimate and passionate sexual R with his own W once again as just "sex" is just awful.
Well, are we going to argue semantics ? As you say ???
Following strict Roman Catholic beliefs, then Sex is just for procreation, and nothing else...
And I'm not advocating that I am, or believe that....
Just pointing out that there are belief systems for every person, everywhere...
And that is the second time today, that you have inserted your own agenda into a conversation that had nothing to do with you....
I never once said that he didn't love his Wife, or that his stand wasn't admirable, OR that he shouldn't strive for that...
So do NOT put words onto my fingers here...
I actually admire a Man that can stand for his Marriage, there is so little of that in today's world. I admire that he is trying to reconnect with her, and I am happy that she seems to be responding....
What I find odd, is when he obsesses , and plans every little touch, and brush up against, and his recent posts have all seemed to been focused on the act of Sex....
Sounds a little creepy to me....
And if you are totally honest, if there were a person, that sat back and planned specific moves to use on you, in hopes of having Sex with them, then it would probably creep you out too....
FY....
Have you actually talked to her about this issue ??
Have you explained to her that you need that within the Marriage ???
Have you expressed that not having Sexual contact isn't working for you ???
