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Re: too little, too late whytry #2455420 05/27/14 06:47 PM
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OP lost18 Member L Joined: Feb 2014 Posts: 543	Thanks WT, I appreciate the encouragement. I truly do believe that keeping busy and GAL is the key to survival! I feel H is starting to open up a little more, no R talk but just talking in general. Thursday night he had sent me a text about something he had asked me to do, I responded and that was about it. Friday morning I asked him something pertaining to that and then decided to test the waters a little. M: BTW, guess what I saw the other day H: What's that?? (he responded!!) I told him and we texted back and forth a few minutes about it, even with a little H humor involved. I though the convo was over, was not going to respond again and he texted again saying that he thinks I'm going to have to rethink my plans for TX (son's boot camp grad)maybe not bring the girls. I responded asking why and stating they would be mad about that and told him what I was thinking. I than rethought that, pretty typical response from me so then added if I had to I would. I asked him what was going on and he told me he was concerned about spending the $$ because he hurt his back pretty bad and wasn't sure how much longer he would last at this job. We talked a little bit about that and I ended it by thanking him for letting me know. There are lots of things that were going thru my head about this convo of course, but I think the fact that he even decided to tell me about his back is a big positive. D12 and I were out of town for the weekend at a tournament. Being in settings like this are always a little lonely for me. Although there are one or two other single parents there most of the other families are couples. Of course, since H has been gone 6 years this is nothing really new, I'm usually alone at these things anyway...just different now I guess. Driving home I thought, A LOT! I don't need him, why am I putting myself thru this, etc. etc. And of course the opposite as well, picturing a happy future. But I always come to the same conclusion: I love my H and I want this M to work. Now it is a little easier to see that I will be OK either way, but trying to focus on my goals and stay positive. So, yesterday I decided to reach out again. Sent him a text asking if he got to see Pres. Obama as I saw he was over by him. He responded and we sent a couple more texts back and forth. I wished him a Happy Memorial Day and he said "Thanks!" Again, I thought the convo was over and then I get another text saying d12 told him about her big win this weekend! I of course replied letting him know some of her highlights and we shared a few more texts. One of the things he did say "sorry to have missed it." Of course I'm sure he is, but I think for him to say that to me is definitely another positive along with him being the one to keep the conversation going! I know these are little things, but def positives considering the lack of communication over the past few months. Now, again, the hard part for me is to not read too much into anything and "have no expectations." Very, very difficult. I really feel like I have to make the most of this family vacation this summer, I keep saying it's my last hope to cast some doubt on his decision. But I really have to focus on me and not get too wrapped up in what he is or isn't doing. Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96 S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14) BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since

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too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 01:14 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 01:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/04/14 01:57 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 02:50 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/06/14 02:06 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:35 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 02:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/08/14 02:10 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 06:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/10/14 02:29 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/10/14 09:59 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/11/14 11:04 AM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/11/14 01:21 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/14/14 02:16 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/15/14 01:26 PM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/15/14 01:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/19/14 02:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	ye21	04/19/14 04:46 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/22/14 01:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/25/14 02:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/25/14 07:23 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/25/14 07:50 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/26/14 01:52 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/28/14 01:11 PM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/28/14 02:10 PM
Re: too little, too late	Underdog	04/28/14 04:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	Underdog	04/28/14 04:19 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	04/29/14 07:38 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/04/14 04:13 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/04/14 12:55 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/05/14 06:11 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/06/14 05:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/06/14 08:09 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/07/14 05:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	LongRoad06	05/07/14 05:52 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/09/14 06:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/13/14 01:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 01:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	Georgiabelle	05/15/14 01:33 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 04:00 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 04:01 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/16/14 08:56 AM
Re: too little, too late	owl777	05/16/14 07:25 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 04:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 04:06 PM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	05/17/14 08:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/20/14 05:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/20/14 05:38 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/22/14 01:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/23/14 02:20 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/26/14 07:42 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/27/14 06:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/27/14 09:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	05/27/14 10:02 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/29/14 12:49 AM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/29/14 03:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/01/14 02:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/04/14 01:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	willbwell	06/04/14 02:02 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/05/14 04:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/07/14 11:55 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/08/14 01:20 AM
Re: too little, too late	GoatGal	06/08/14 01:39 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/09/14 03:25 PM
Re: too little, too late	willbwell	06/10/14 01:25 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/10/14 01:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/10/14 01:45 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/11/14 01:40 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/14/14 01:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/16/14 01:46 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/17/14 02:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/17/14 05:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/19/14 02:00 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/21/14 02:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/23/14 02:05 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/24/14 02:26 PM
Re: too little, too late	Thornton	06/24/14 02:31 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/27/14 01:59 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/27/14 02:05 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 04:46 AM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 05:03 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 05:09 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 08:01 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 09:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 09:40 PM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/01/14 11:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/02/14 01:31 AM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	07/02/14 01:47 AM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/02/14 02:11 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/02/14 03:04 AM
Re: too little, too late	Thornton	07/02/14 03:59 AM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	07/02/14 04:01 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/10/14 01:45 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/10/14 01:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/13/14 10:42 PM
Re: too little, too late	Wet	07/13/14 10:52 PM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/02/14 02:10 AM

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