Mach, Yes, 2 plus years of no sex with my W does make me feel uncomfortable. I think it is unfair and completely inaccurate of you to say I bitch about it though. Maybe recheck my posts regarding that accusation.

I do focus on it though, who wouldn’t? If you look at the SSM board there are others in my situation… content with everything in the M but the lack of sex. So OF COURSE we would focus on that. I like to do it in a positive, let’s see what works manner. If you have been following along then you would have noticed that W is not only still here, but slowly getting more comfortable around me. We both know this stuff takes time... and at least for now, I'm planning to be around long enough to see this change.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl