Did you mean this (bolded) with the insult and disrespect that it comes across with ?????
I gotta say, that I was insulted by this statement from you..
And I am not sure if you were directing this at UR or not, yet I will say that it came through as you lashing out directly to her....
Mach, thanks for asking instead of assuming.
While my question about "what vows mean to you" was not directed at anyone in particular, I can see how it looked that way, and could be considered disrespectful. Just another thing to add to my list of issues to work on.
I apologize that my words left you feeling insulted.
To explain this a little more.....
And just so that you understand where I am coming from..
I KNOW what her vows mean to her, because I was there with her when she was backed against them...
I KNOW, because of the thousands of texts, emails, posts, and phone calls with her....no to mention the face-to-face chats we have had.
And now, maybe you can see how your poor choice of words was just as insulting to me (and Cat, cause she walked that path with UR too), as they were to UR....
I STILL live my Vows, and I have been Divorced for three years now. I still love my X, just in a different way. I STILL honor her, by letting her go to find her happiness, even if that is not with me, and I honor her choices to find that happiness. I STILL Cherish her, what we had, what we built, and the memories that she gave to me....
And I have felt that guilt, because I wasn't able to see that when times were good, I had to wait until times were bad to recognize it...
And I KNOW, that UR feels, and lives the same way (forgive me for posting for you Darlin)...
I also understand where Cat is coming from too....
Your vows, and the way that you are living now , seem to be tied to HER sexual responses, or lacktherof....
And that is YOUR choice to make, yet you seem to bitch about it a whole lot for someone who is so accepting of your vows....
And if that is your choice, then you will supported in any way possible, yet the beauty of this place, is that you will also be challenged with your choices. So that every possible scenario is played out with your thoughts and feelings...
And it seems to me, that accepting your vows, is about accepting the person that she is now..
And from reading you, YOU do not seem comfortable with that...
Now, I don't really want this to turn into something that doesn't need to be here...
I just want you to understand why I am a tad bit protective.....
