KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[KGirl]

Will it be freeing to not have fear hanging over you?

I would think so! I was scared that if I didn't keep him happy/let him have his way, that I'd get hurt or that he'd leave. But I'd still be resentful that I was always caving and that he wouldn't see my point of view. Now it doesn't matter very much. He "left," the worst case scenario has happened. I've been encouraged to think about the positive things aspects of physically separating and at first I refused to do that. Now I can see more of them, this being one of them, but also generally being able to do what I want, whether it's what I choose to make for dinner, how to decorate my place, when to clean up, what to watch on TV, etc.

A lot of the issues I brought that led to things as they are can be improved if I focus on a few big picture goals:
-Being happy on my own/ as a "single" person
-Letting go of the past
-Acknowledging what is beyond my control/influence and just concerning myself with the things within my reach
Things that H was unhappy with about me all lead back to those main concepts (being jealous, always wanting to know what he's doing, not liking it when he spent time with others/by himself, not trusting him, holding past mistakes over his head). With us not living together and no kids I'm not sure how he'll see if I make those changes, but just NOT reaching out to him or checking in on him during this time is a good start. Originally I wanted to block him on facebook after I moved so that I wouldn't have to see what he's up to, but after reading a different post on here, I may change my mind about that - it would also provide him a window into my life where he could see that I'm moving on with my life, having fun, etc.