My values? Well... I don't know how well I can judge myself. But I can say that I've had opportunities to cheat during this marriage (not sure if this is what you're getting at or not) and have never been interested. Flattered maybe, but I've never been that type of guy. And quite frankly, literally up until the day my W said she wanted a divorce our sex life was great. Never had a cause to stray or want to stray from that perspective. Now of course it's non-existant. But there wasn't a slow decline or anything. We went from bunnies to monks in a day. Actually talked to W about that. She said that despite how unhappy she was with the other aspects of the marriage, that part of it was always good so that's what she held on to as long as she could even as everything else was falling apart.
I guess as far as my values go, and what W and I have talked about is openness and honesty, and if you can't be open and honest about something then you have an answer to the questions like "is this right?" "Is this ok?" "should I do this?"
Work on this a little more, stumps. Values are who you are at your core. Sort of your personal internal boundaries. Values are the framework for character and I'm sure you've heard the saying, 'Character is what you do when no one is looking.'
Being unsure about your values can lead to being tossed about on the waves like a boat without a captain.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
