my understanding when reading DR was that some of my goals should pertain to interactions with the spouse. I don't have any here; I have told him that I was not going to maintain a friendship with him until he stopped communicating with OW because I couldn't respect myself if I tolerated that. He hasn't really answered me, though his facial expressions when I told him that (and repeated it yesterday after an unfortunate margarita) have been interesting -- like, cheerful. Since then, we are friendly and he has been complimenting and accommodating me quite a lot, but in other ways he's TREMENDOUSLY inconsiderate. So I don't have any goals about moving our relationship in any direction because the OW is a deal-breaker for me. But ought I to? Or is setting that boundary a kind of a goal?
(I should add that I most likely won't be in contact with him for the next month owing to his international travel schedule)
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15