Even though we get along well, W is not interested in a physical relationship with me. I know it is possible for this to change, and hope that it does, but the fact is it may not. I don't know how long I can wait for something that may never happen.
And I responded to that. And then you wrote the following to me.
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
[quote=UR]
#2 I said this >>> "For better or for worse, 'til death do us part"
What do these words mean to you? I don't take my vows lightly. Why do we as humans still say these words, every day, when so many renege on them? I refuse to do that. If W wants to bail, OK, that's on her.
You ask what did those words mean to me? I will tell you. They meant that I stood for three years during which time I watched my h carry on an affair. I knew he slept with her on my 25th wedding anniversary. I saw him leave our son on holidays to be with her. I found that he depleted our life savings.
He did not work in the backyard with me. Share his day. Go on vacation with me. He did not do chores with me and go to the movies with me. What he did do was break my heart, over and over and over again.
But I took those vows and I meant them with all my heart. And I lived them everyday until I could not anymore. Because if I did, there would be no me left.
I was no longer willing to stand at the expense of me. I mattered, too.
I do not regret that I stood. I do not regret that I stood for me.
You and I have had this discussion before. Every sitch is different. I would not and have not ever judged anyone for their actions or their committment. I cannot know anyone's pain.
Be careful with your words, FY. Be careful not to judge what you do not know about.
