You are right FY- he has no idea what he wants and is most definitely spinning. He said as much tonight. I asked him something that I can't even remember and he said " I don't know anything anymore".
I had a wow moment just now- I was praying and as I have often recently I asked God for a passage to read. The message I received was 1st Corinthians 7. This is the chapter on marriage!!! I was amazed when I read through it. I don't know if it means my marriage will work out or end but it was certainly a powerful reminder that God is moving and with me in this process. I will standby and stand- remembering my vows while also taking care of me.
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown