KGirl - Movin' On and Out!

[KGirl]

Claire, in thinking about why I am asking permission... honestly, because I'm still a little scared of him. H has a temper and doesn't manage his anger or frustration well. It's gotten better than when we were in high school and college, but when he doesn't get his way or I disagree with him about something, it hasn't been uncommon for him to slam things, punch walls, etc. One time in college when someone down the hall sprayed him with silly string as a joke, he punched the guy in the face. We thought he might get kicked out of the dorm. So, I have a tendency when we disagree to give in to him or let him do what he wants, because I'm scared of his reaction. He's never physically hurt me but I've worried sometimes that he might. And yet, he's telling me now he wasn't assertive enough and gave in to ME too much in our M...? I'll think about ways to just say what I want, or maybe combine it with giving him something else "I want to take this thing. I'll leave you this other thing."

H brought up the conversation again about going to the neighbor's tonight for drinks and watching the cat when he's "gone" in June. I think I handled it a little better than the first time, maybe still not ideal.
H: Are you sure you don't want to go to the neighbor's tonight?
Me: No, I don't.
H: It's going to be weird going alone (it's two couples - the neighbors, and the couple across the street.. and then H)
Me: It might be. But it is what it is. *joking tone* Guess it's too late for you to find a date!
H: *laughs, then pauses*
H: And you still won't come take care of the cat when I'm gone?
Me: No.
H: But she'll miss you.
Me: She might, but it is what it is.
H: Even if I paid you?
Me: No, I still don't want to do it.