Hi Tears, I, like you, know I had issues that helped get our marriage to where it did. Of course, I was really trying to be a good husband and father. Like you, I HATE that my W refused to even try. Never accepted ANY responsibility for any part she played. She just says her "feelings changed" about me and that she is "unhappy" and I must be the reason. Why should she try as she's no longer "in love" with me (but does love me, you know that drill). She told me yesterday that she's filing for D. This comes a week and half after telling me she had no intention doing so for at least a year. Seems her father offered to pay for her lawyer so she changed her mind.
I now need to go get a L of my own but my W doesn't want me too (her's is "nice" and will be fair). I have to tell my 2 girls that mom is not only leaving but also no longer will even try separation.
I also don't see how denying that she has any control over her "feelings", blaming me for her unhappiness without even trying MC. Doing everything she swore she never would. And now not even trying separation only because if she gets the D now, her daddy will pay for it. The money is more important than our 20 years together. The constant re-writing of the past, going all the way back to not loving me the day we got married! How does this make her a better person? I hope your D15 is doing OK. My D14 isn't going to take this change well but I will always do what is best for her and hopefully that will be enough.
Hang in there Tears, it seems like it's been a rough weekend for every LBS on here! Things are going to get better, for both of us!
