Thank you nero for sharing your story and understanding.
This is truly difficult. I know h knows there is something wrong, said it when he left that he felt cold inside, there was nothing there. Has since seen an md. But it's not enough for him to just step back and take some time before he tore apart the family completely. I think even if he wakes up he will not be able to come back. I don't think he would be strong enough to face this. That's really sad to believe because none of us hate him, we just can't deal with his behavior and if he were to want to come home and deal with the issues and put them behind us he would be forgiven and welcomed back with open arms from everyone. Well, maybe not our d15. She has told me numerous times she doesn't want him to come home, so there is a lot of work to be done there.
Still haven't heard from him so I guess it's been a good weekend for him. Our son believes he is drinking again and if so he will probably not recover from that this time. Maybe he's going back to face his childhood (alcoholic at 13) drinking, hanging out with young guys, playing the teenager again.
I get mlc is about reevaluating your life and making changes that are better for you, but I don't see how being a drunk, deadbeat dad is doing better. But I guess in his mind it is.
I think depression is on him hard too since his mom's death and his stroke. I know he has a lot to carry and I'm sorry for that, but I can't let him drag me down with him. I wish I could help him, but I can only help me to survive. It makes me so very sad.
