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Great news, SD.


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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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SD,

Good grief, I wasn't suggesting you go as long as I did back when my kids were younger! Woman, I just meant until you feel in control of you and have some clarity on what underlying issues still need to be addressed. shocked

I'm in one of those self imposed places right now because I have other emotions that have taken priority, and I can't think things through until I process them first.

So good luck!

I went to the tapping workshop during the I Can Do It weekend here in Denver back in March that Wonka suggested. It certainly seems like a good way to get help, and I need to practice it more as well. Thanks for the reminder.

Hope you find the balance and calm you're seeking--

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I second the 12-step program. I did FA for a while and the little book helps me often.

Pia too. She helped me a ton. Maybe I should look at some of the other stuff you like!


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Stubborn,

I'm late to your BD party...drats! Hope you enjoyed some of my soggy strawberry shortcake. grin

Gotta be honest here...I think co-dependency has been bandied about far too much around DB. In my view, a partnership/marriage, one needs to lean and depend on one another as a part of a team. Not everyone is co-dependent..ya know.

Are you planning on getting a kitten or cat soon?

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Sadly, I travel too much to be able to have a live purr generator.

Wonka, not sure if there's some semantic confusion or if we just disagree. If that's the case, you'll find NG in your camp, I think.

Wishing y'all fun and happiness for the holiday weekend! (Or is that *all y'all* ???)


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LOL SD...
I do believe in co-dependency..
fall into it quite easily myself
we just differ on what to do about it?


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Hmmmm interesting.

What are the differences in what you do about it? I know 12-Step isn't for everyone. I was quite surprised that it so clearly was the place for me at that time.

I see a very clear difference in being codependent vs interdependent. I still have to battle my overfunctioning tendencies.


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Bug,

"Overfunctioning..."...huh?? What's that all about? I wanna understand it better from your perspective. Does it mean that your synapses are firing alright? smile

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Hmm... Interesting thought that NG and I differ on what to do about codependence. Maybe it's that we assign it different levels of importance or urgency.


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Wonka, I don't understand your question, we went from overfunctioning to synapses. Rephrase, if you would.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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