Been doing lots of thinking about this... no response that indicates to him that I care at all *how* he informs me of his change in plans seems useful. He will only get defensive and see me as weak or petty or overly sensitive.
It doesn't matter what he says or how he says it, does it? All that matters is how I react. I can either say, "Sure, I'm available and I'd love to spend a bit more time with D," knowing that at some point in the future I'll need him to be flexible for me. Or, I can simply say, "I wish I could help, but I'm not available."
The fact that he feels it's ok to act like we are buddies when it's convenient for him gives me a great incentive to GAL so that I *am* in fact unavailable!
Sometimes I feel like I am walking a fine line between "keeping the road home smooth/being someone only a fool would walk away from" and being a doormat.
