I get what you mean about experimenting and monitoring results. Vastly different from using strategy in "winning back your W."
She is on her own journey. It seems that with alcoholics that there are many fits and starts in the process. They have to hit rock bottom or really want to be healthy in order to receive the necessary help. Yes, that must be hard for you to stand by and watch W go through this...yet it needs to happen in order for her to learn how to be a healthy person. If you're in her way all the time "helping" her, she won't be able to learn some valuable lessons herself. Right?
You asked me about how I managed Ms. Wonka's radio silence for so long...GAL and being busy helped a long way towards that process. In fact, I took up golfing as a new hobby and I loooove it!! When Ms. Wonka was told that I took up golfing, she was very surprised and did appear a bit intrigued by it.
Just to be clear...Ms. Wonka and I are NOT reconciled. That's ok. I am fine and dandy with a hot new girl.
I chipped away at the Berlin Wall by sending photos of our dog and sending her updates about fun stuff the dog was up to....all short and neutral.
