He's been here all weekend, including spending the night last night in the guest room. We had an enjoyable evening watching TV (probably the best in months) and I had no problem just saying good night to him and going to bed. Slept fine.
Today, not so great.
I got dressed and went to church. Looked AWESOME (thank you, 20 pound weight loss). Met him & kids for lunch, then went to park for a while, then for ice cream. He sat next to me at the park, but I didn't talk to him. I had nothing to say and I figured if he cared he could make some conversation.
My 6yo fell at the park and scraped his elbow. This didn't bother him until we were walking to the ice cream place. After listening to some whining my husband said "He's hurting, I'm going to take him home now. Can you wait here for S8?" I said "do whatever you want." S8 had maybe three bites of ice cream left, and we were maybe 100 feet behind them when we got moving. At one point he turned around and looked at me. He never stopped for us until S8 caught up to them on his scooter. I didn't say anything because I know he'd make an excuse, and I know what the excuse would be, but I've been reading pearlharbor's threads and the "setting them free" thread.
You don't treat friends that way.
I have the appt with the attorney for next week and I've been waffling about what I was going to do there. But now I think I'm going to file.
We had a brief conversation about finances & separation last night. H shuddered when he said "I'm not ready to talk about custody" and he couldn't even say lawyer -- he just said, "What are you going to do about your appointment with that person?" And ASKED ME TO TELL HIM WHAT I LEARN so he can know what to expect! I've been digesting professional interactions for this guy for 16 years and he expects me to hire an attorney for myself and tell him what HIS options are? he's in la-la land!!!
What am I going to do? I'm going to show him that I know how I deserve to be treated. I'm going to bring his pigeons home to roost. The only things I have left to lose are civil conversation and the house. I'm fine with that. I actually think I am less likely to lose the civil conversation if I pursue a divorce because then he'll know I mean what I say.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
