My H (really LD or possibly ND) and I (HD) have been in counseling for months now. The counselor told him that he should initiate 2-3 times a week, sadly that hasn't happened. I also would really go for the "outside the bedroom" idea but that hasn't happened either. I have 2 teenagers from a prior marriage, who are both gone a lot, so we do have opportunity.
I think it's great that you're making the effort; I'm afraid that my H not being willing to make that effort (even though he's the one who wanted the counseling) is going to cost us our marriage.
