I'm getting divorced, I'll let you know how it is on the other side.
Congrats Accuray. The pain and devastation has continued long enough. Now you are taking control of your life. It doesn't mean you won't be open to a opposite sex relationship partner, but you have some needs that any intended lover will need to meet. Having a female room mate was not in the cards, nor a non-sexual female lover. You can be friends or associates and use someone else for a lover.
I wanted you to provide feedback in the "Sexual Issues" forum to my responses.
