Working on yourself is great. Some find it helpful to set personal goals to keep them focused. GAL is also great! I'm sure your kids keep you busy, but being with friends who like and support you is good for you.
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Initially things were fairly friendly but the past couple of days she's gone pretty cold. I didn't say hi yesterday when she showed up and that seemed to bother her. Should I. Trying to stay dark when possible. What else should I be doing?
If you keep the kids at the place where she stays everyday, it is about impossible to go dark. Plus if she sees you and you are trying to ignore you, it kind of makes you look like a jerk by not at least speaking. Going dark is no contact of any kind (including sight). I personally believe in your case it would be better to just speak and keep it on a business type level for now. Don't hang out after she comes home, but don't act like you are mad, either. If there is nothing you need to tell her, just say something like, "Okay, I've got to go, see you later".
How is your physical appearance when she sees you?
I hope you keep up the good work. It must be awful hard on you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
