Thanks everyone. As positive as I often feel, I sometimes still struggle greatly.
Originally Posted By: uRworthy
I know it is so hard when you can see the possibilities and they seem right there.
Yes. Yes it is.
Even though we get along well, W is not interested in a physical relationship with me. I know it is possible for this to change, and hope that it does, but the fact is it may not. I don't know how long I can wait for something that may never happen. But I also don't want to give up on what we have, and have little interest in a new partner, who I know will come with her own issues. So here I stand.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
You know, my friend, I would be worried if you didnt feel that way at times.
Here are my concerns. As much as you love your wife, you have to stand for the right reasons.
It should never be at the cost of you. It should never be out of fear of what may or may not happen with someone else.
The truth is that she may never feel that way about you. And at some point, you will have to decide if you can live with that or not.
But you arent done yet, FY. You have come so far and worked so hard. You just have to take it one day at a time. You may decide at some point to quit. Today is not that day.
At some point, you will need to send out a "test" to W to gauge her feelings on non-sexual touches such as hugging her a bit longer than normal, holding her hand a bit while watching TV, arm around shoulder, and then monitor results. Get your clipboard out already!
