My h was very nice while we were dating. He talked about the temper his family had, but said he did not have it BC he found religion. I knew he had depression issues but did not want to address them. Then we got married and he got the awful temper he said his family had. I just don't understand getting mad over simple things right away and then pouting all day. Very opposite of my family. Then the verbal zingers. H would just say one sentence that would cut like a knife. If I confronted him it was more meanness or are you too stupid to get the joke. I put it all on me and it was my fault. I would try to soften the world, to prevent the meanness.
Now I see h doing nice things for ow and her friends and family. Part of me is like wtf, that is not fair. The other part is haha wait until he shows his true colors.
I know I need to file, but still it is hard. H is not mentally stabile. I am worried for kids to be alone with him. But right now they ate going to think a normal marriage is separate rooms, no affection, and a grumpy pants dad. I can't do anything for awhile until I have family here to help with kids. I also have few other things to get in order. Also I am going to have to hope judge will have h move out of house. He will not move out now. I get I know my rights, you cannot kick me out. I would hate for him to be served and then come home yo me..ugh. H says multiple times daily I am divorcing you when work situation is over.
Ok I know I am rambling. I am hoping for the best. The kids need to see normal relationships. H did not, and him and siblings are messed up with their relationships. His dad quizzed me on h the other day, as he lives far away. It looks like he is starting to see his son has issues. Too bad he does not realize he had issues to begin with BC his dad f**led raising the kids..ugh
Hoping everyone has great weekend. Hugs and prayers to everyone. Thanks for letting me ramble
