New therapist and moving on......

[25yearsmlc]

can you tell him what is written here^^?

I think it's pretty darn valid to introduce it by saying, as CALMLY as possible (and I mean, like you just took a sedative first)

"I would want you at the birth of our child. But I'm afraid that in the midst of my labor, and in context of what is happening between us, I could get hurt more, again...so if you can't refrain from doing the above^^ while I'm giving birth to your child, then maybe it's best you just don't..."


At least you'd know in advance.

Also, you mentioned the story your grandmother used a lot. But in the story "The Little Red Hen", if I recall right, the Little Red Hen DID ask for help, repeatedly. But no one ever agreed to help her. THEN She did it herself and then she also kept it all to herself, correct?

You have been mistreated by your h, certainly. But how many times have you asked him or others for support and had them say "no"? And may I submit that while going to a dry well for water is not healthy, refusing to check the new wells for water, OR assuming that one "no" answer is permanent, might not be fair to yourself or your kids.

Anyhow, again, (((( HUGS )))) and we are ALL here, rooting for you & Lilly.