New therapist and moving on......

[twinmom]

I go out of my way to include H's family especially mil. We text on a regular basis, I invite her (and all his family) to any holiday/cook outs/etc. I even took mil for a massage and out to brunch for mothers day. I constantly text her pics of the kids and have even offered for her to stay here if she ever left H's dad (alcohol problem)

I don't remember much about forgiveness growing up, I only remember being told to rely on yourself and no one else. I was raised by my grandparents mostly who grew up during the depression. My grandmother pounded into my brain the story of the little red hen, and asking for help was seen as a weakness.

Mil always says H never did anything wrong growing up, it's the family joke he is the perfect child. His mom has even purchased ornaments that say "favorite child" and "perfect son". He "forgives" his brothers and his mom/dad when they make mistakes by complaining about it to another sibling and then just not thinking/dealing with it. He practices the "out of sight, out of mind" philosophy with pretty much everything in life.

H purchased a patio table for me for mothers day and took it to Lowe's on Wednesday to have them put it together. They said it would only take a day and they would call but they didn't. So this morning H called them, it was ready so he came over after work and picked up the van went to pick it up and then set it up with the umbrella in the backyard.
My backyard is really awesome and quickly becoming my favorite place to be.

I am trying to show less anger so I sent H a text tonight saying thanks for taking care of the table, I really appreciate it. The backyard is my favorite place.
He responded back, no problem the backyard was the selling point for him. That it is perfect.