My kids are with other family for the weekend. I don't think my wife was expecting me to be around. I keep my roster in a prominent spot in the kitchen so she has access to it and any changes that occur. I'd be surprised if she felt judged or embarrassed as this (her coming home the next morning) has been a fairly regular occurrence of late. I act "as if" and go about my morning.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014