FY- I continue to be so amazed at how well you focus on the positives and appreciate the baby steps. Looks like you and W are moving closer and I am very happy for you!

The Harville Hendrix books are phenomenal! H's IC had told him to read those books a long time ago ( he has yet to do that) and I was intrigued so I immediately bought them.
The "keeping the love you find" book, even though it is meant for singles, is really good as well. I am now reading the "receiving love" book and it's very interesting as I see my H in this one majorly.
These are the books that actually helped me do the painful work of dealing with some personal and childhood issues that impacted how I was behaving in the relationship. The IMAGO theory makes a lot of sense to me.
Hope they help you as much as they did me.

Me 41 H 40
M 20 T 23
S 19,16, 8 D 13
BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work
BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D
Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015
Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown