Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

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Thanks Sandi. I think she is just going to have one bank account to look after everything so I will rethink how I can bless her with money under the radar still.

and I absolutely agree about working. In our 13 years of marriage I haven't been consistent but i have worked full time as a job developer and in human resources for about half our married life but just flaked into part time in the last couple years. 180ing and working ft is very achievable so I think I will just be present with our disclosure to parents, let them know if asked that I want to work on M, but maybe just let my actions speak for themselves. Working full time looking after myself and kids and showing a less needy "look after me demeanor"

She did waffle today though and followed me around the house looking sad and trying to start some conversation which I engaged in very briefly but cheerfully. She kept saying " It feels like we haven't talked in forever" and inside I was like yeah I know I am 180ing you....;D

Then she made some compliments on "wow you have lost some weight" translation you look good! I did not tell her it is partially due to stress of M and not eating besides my mad jogging habit I have 180ed into. but all in all today is the best interaction I have had in weeks! so hurray 180s! Gonna keep my head in the game now and go in for the long haul of change.