Spoue tried I didn't, now opposite #2

[MrCAS]

I see a lot of how I was in the way that you are.

No, that would be was. I was an angry man. I was a score keeping angry man who relished the role of victim. I didn't start out that way.

I see something in you that reminds me of some of what I went through.

Someone here told... It might be too late to save your marriage but it is never too late to save yourself or something to that effect.

Here is something I learned...

When my W said she wanted a D, I didn't put up any roadblocks. I didn't contest the D. I gave the attorneys every piece of information they requested.

I didn't discuss any of it with anyone except for a very select few... (read that three people... four if you count my attorney) because it was none of their business. I didn't try to sway the opinions of the people around me. I didn't play one side against the middle. I didn't involve any family to use against her.

I had a co-worker tell me... "If I hadn't seen you getting served, I would have no idea that you were going through a divorce. You never discuss it... you don't trash her... or him... WTF, dude, it is as if you doesn't bother you..."

Yeah, it bothered me. I was watching a woman I loved for twelve years walking away. I lost my marriage. I found me. I am more important than the broken marriage.

Like MWD says... your old marriage is dead. It is gone. It died an unceremonious death at BD. Can you start a new one? My crystal ball is still on the fritz so I can't tell you a definitive answer.

Until you fix you... you can not fix anything.