I just caught up I have been MIA.. felt I did not have anything to offer anyone.. still don't but realise that knowing other people are thinking of you helps. The goals sound great and I agree that the detachment thing is difficult. It must be doubly so when he still lives in the house. Enjoy your weekend .. my H decided to not visit again this weekend- leaving me with way too much to do for one person.. so I went out.. actually it was good not to have the stress. Our sense of truth and justice is different I think to those who walk out and make up another life.. we will never understand them.. I am not sure we really want to.