H has told several friends he is just staying married BC it looks good that he is married and a family man. Friends stood up for me. No all h has is ow and her other friend, #3 friend has left the group.
Unfortunately I have grown to realize h has always been verbally abusive, a bully, and angry. I feel stupid that I did not notice. Now that he is in mlc, it is million times worse.
H continues to get more dangerous. I have had people around house for last week to prevent issues. I am going to file asab I am scared of h. I am waiting until kids are out of school and I also need to get a few things in order. I may have to move up date as the second someone was not here he monstered. He said he was inviting ow over. I told him I would call cops. He was right in my face yelling. He left came home in middle of night without ow. He won't move out. When I file, I am going to have to hope judge will ok him not living here.
I feel bad that it has come to this. But the fact that he scares me and kids are starting to notice something is up. I have no choice. He also has mental issues and quit IC when she started probing. If he does go crazy I can call cops and they will do 3 day mental hold.
I don't think it is wise to stand after divorce due to abuse. This is such a mess. He is going to be more awful since I am filing. I can't believe I was abused for so long and did not know, thought it was my fault. No one said word one aboute he is awful to you, you need to get out.
On the upside it looks like I might have a new job if I lose my other job. It is in my profession and on similar schedule to kids. They will also help me get my masters.
