Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[rayzzz]

Hope someone can help me out with disclosing to her parents:
Next week we have called a meeting with her family (my family is not in the city)
Who we spend a lot of babysitting time with to break the news of our separation.
I know they really value me as part of the family. Now after we tell them (maybe I should break the news gently instead of my WAW? Or should she cause its her parents?)
Should I add "This is not what I want" or should I just shut up. Probrably not a good idea to bring up issues in front of everyone or even talk about our marriage problems even if they press.....
Actions are louder than words right?