Yesterday~ twisted on how to tell xbf that I needed to leave work early to take my daughter into the city, thus leaving him with "work". I admit I left it to the last minute, like he does. Couldn't decide whether he gets to know this, or just appear mysterious. As it turned out, a client called and wanted an appt. in an hour. Xbf accepted the appointment and told me. I said, "I can't, had plans with DD". He was not happy. He feels that he works, and I abandon him for my social life. <<< He has always felt this, regardless how much work I do. I really twisted over what I should tell him, when I should tell him, with whom, etc. If it were the other way around, he would work to the last second, then quickly leave telling me "I have errands & things to do".
Last night ~ dinner & audience participation in the city for a comedy show with my daughter and friend, then dinner/drinks. Back to my place for another drink & tv.
Today/tonight ~ wedding for a friend of my daughter.
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I can tell he is not happy with me today & the fact that again, I am leaving work to socialize & go to a wedding. He will be "working" and not having a social life.
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Starsky ~~ How do I put out the 'Im not desperate for your cookies vibe" then?
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I am "thinking"... I may offer to bring down a coffee to work today. Making it just about a coffee....and try "no expectations".
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
