Marching forward with deal breakers in hand

[Barrybran]

I love that piece by Jayne. I hadn't thought of it like that. It's brilliant.

As for detachment, it takes time mdu. It's taken me six months to mostly detach from my wife and even then I've still got more work to do. Remind yourself that it is his life and he will do what he sees fit, whether or not you agree with or like it. Eventually, what he does will affect you less and less and over time, things will start to not affect you at all.

I like your list of plans for the weekend. Remember not to mindread. What your husband does is his business. If he does anything that crosses your boundaries and you find out about it, as MrBond said, there are consequences. Other than that, he's just another person outside of your circle and you're living your own life (and enjoying it!).