Bea you hit the nail on the head when you say "dysfunction rules". I am so tired of fighting the dysfunction. It's always something. I am glad I don't live with it any more, but I still have to hear about it. That doesn't mean I have to listen.
H emailed my attorney THREE TIMES and cc'd me on all of them. Please note it hasn't even been 24 hours since my attorney contacted H. But H expects everyone to drop whatever they are doing and give him attention. So pathetic. My attorney emailed H this morning and said they can conference call the court together and cancel both contempt hearings. We will discuss the matter(s) with the mediator. Maybe we can get to the end of things once and for all.
Supposed to be nice this weekend. No soccer games for S, one for D, so I think I will take the kids to the zoo. We get free passes at work so it won't cost much. We'll pack a picnic lunch and just make a day of it. I love the zoo and we have a nice one here.
BTW: Is it too late to plant vegetables in the garden? Like I said I am new to this. PLUS something is munching on my lily of the valley. Is there a natural repellant? I don't like using chemicals.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
But H expects everyone to drop whatever they are doing and give him attention. So pathetic.
Oh yes!!!
I would buy a few ready grown plants of things you want at this point, especially if space is limited. Except for radishes which grow very quickly from seed - they were the first things I ever planted when I was 6, with my dad!!
So in the past three days H has called and texted countless amounts of times. I swear he called me five times today. I didn't answer the phone because I was at work. He was mad because I didn't drop everything and call him.
When we finally talked he was very upset. He must have had a bad day or something. He wanted to know if we could use the money in my attorneys trust (which is from his last bonus) to pay the mediator. I said it was fine with me. He then went on and on about his money issues and D's baseball. He asked me to go in on half for a new baseball glove which will be about $6. I know that $6 will go far for him. : /
Ugh. I can't let this dude's issues get to me. I can't do anything for him. I can't fix him. I often wonder if he thinks I can?
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
WH, He is still looking to you to be his problem solver. He's going to have a very tough time growing up and learning to make decisions on his own.
The consequences of his actions are starting to become a reality. Poor fool. He had it made, i.e., a good wife, family and a home. Now he's struggling to make ends meet and still feels the need to contact you to have you resolve his problems.
No, you can't do anything for him, nor can you fix him...but you can enjoy your holiday weekend w/o the stressors he tends to create.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My mom says when H and I were together I took on too much and handled everything for him. So much so that now he expects me to do the same. I don't think he will ever figure it out. But that's not my problem.
Looking forward to having a nice relaxing time with the kids this weekend. D hD a soccer game this weekend and we are going to the zoo after church on Sunday. Maybe hit up a farmers market or something.
Hoping H leaves me alone and hangs on tight to OW.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Its so so funny how they all have the same problems with money. No matter how much they make it will never be enough for what they want to do. Teenagers
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Its so so funny how they all have the same problems with money. No matter how much they make it will never be enough for what they want to do. Teenagers
Actually the glove is about $12 so my share is $6. Yeah. I hope he feels like a big man taking that $6 from me especially since I dropped over $150 for S's mission trip with the church.
He has no idea what all I do.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
