Magic, If you didn't ask for a cookie...why didn't you? You can't assume that he's going to give you one or not...if you want a cookie and are that hungry, ask if you may have one. You can't assume anything when it comes to his thought processes.
PA is passive aggressive behavior. You might want to look it up because you both tend to have some of this behavior in your interactions. In many ways the interactions that you both have been displaying lately reminds me of two little kids in the sandbox that don't want to truly share their toys w/each other. So, if one has a toy and doesn't share it, the other finds a way to mirror the behavior to prove his/her point. How can you change the interactions that tend to reflect this behavior?
Now, back to the questions of last week: Are you afraid that if you truly let go, then xbf will be "gone "? What exactly are you waiting for? For him to come around? What if he never comes around?
Your comments: "I just find it so hard to believe that it really takes losing someone completely before they realize just how wonderful they had it.... I am really disappointed in this!!"
Why are you disappointed that people truly don't realize what they had until it's gone? It doesn't necessarily have to deal w/a relationship between a man and a woman, but it can happen any time, any where in your life. You could have a wonderful job and people think you've got it all figured out and truly do not have a clue what you really do and then one day....you leave and that's when they discover just how much you truly did for the office because no one had a clue.
This same thing happens in relationships. We tend to take for granted the things that we do or that we do for our spouses, and vice versa and when the spouse either splits or passes away, that's when we discover just how much that person contributed to making the relationship a good one. It's sad that it happens this way, but it happens more than we really are aware of.
