My life around the time I met her was spent focusing on my daughter. I had been single for about 6 months. It was during the school year (I have my daughter on weekends during the school year) so I spent my weekends doing things with her. Lots of movies, nature museums, zoo etc.
She had recently moved to Denver from California to live with her sister. She had struggled being a single mom in California and found a job in Denver.
My previous relationship was with a girl I met at work. She was probably the most incompatible girlfriend I've ever dated but I was infatuated by her beauty. She was very physically attractive but didn't have much substance (kind of emotionally absent). We dated for a few years. I was very insecure in this relationship because she was constantly being courted by other men. I think she definately contributed to this because she really seemed to enjoy all the attention/gifts/offers for dates. The relationship eventually fell apart because I felt she was becoming untrustworthy (I caught her in a hew lies).
My WAW had several relationships (some of them with abusive with alchoholic men). She was a drinker then and liked to go out alot.
When we met, we did definately drink and party but I never sensed that she was out of control. As the relationship progressed, I got bored with drinking and wanted something more meaningful. She kept drinking.
It came to a head when she went out with friend one night and her friend bad-mouthed me. My WAW ended up hitting her (they were both drunk).
Her friend told my WAW's family, either she goes to rehab or I'm filing charges. WAW went to rehab. She did very well and earned a scholarship and ended up not having to pay anything.
Once out of rehab, she never followed through with the out-patient things (AA, therapy etc). However, she remained sober.
She is sober to this day but has been stuggling with depression, anger for about 6 months now. This is common amongst alcholics that dont drink but also dont follow treatment for the mental side of things.
I sometimes think that because she was not the one to choose to go to rehab, that she feels she doesnt have a problem. I think she feels robbed of her ability to socialize (she loved wine tasting, beer tasting etc.)
For a few months before the bomb, I could tell something was brewing. No sex, quick to anger, depression. But she would always snap out of it and be normal again (sometimes for weeks).
