Spoke to DBing coach and she recommended chilling out and working on myself for a while. Specifically working on my anger and inpatience and recognizing I can't control him, several things that we discussed in this thread :-) We also talked about strategies to get through this weekend without worrying abou him potentially with her, i.e., keeping the focus on me and my kids and just having a good time together. So I am going to try to just hang for a bit as she recommends.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
