Just more proof I just need to stay out of her way. I had to take my D to a friends on my way to work this morning as, once again, my W was too busy with work and passed it to me to take her and expects me to pick her up as well. Once again, her stuff is more important than my stuff and leaves it to me. Of course, as my D really needs to get out and spend time with her friends I'm going to do it. I just need to realize that this will never change, not expect anything different from my W for now and I must be getting there as it didn't phase me at all when it came up. I totally expected nothing.when my D asked both of us that my W would look at me and say she can't do it and would I do it. Progress for sure. No anger, no frustration. Not doing it for my W, I'm doing it for my D.
Matt, one of THE most helpful things I have gotten on this journey is learning the importance of what you think and say in your mind, as well as verbally. What is in your mind controls your emotions and how you interpret events.
Everything is neutral as far as the universe is concerned, it is how we interpret events that decides whether they are negative or positive or neutral. YOU have the power to decide how you are going to see things, only you.
I edited out some of the destructive (to you, your kids, and your W) language/thoughts from one of your paragraphs up there. Seriously, once I fixed that in my head, everything was soooooo much better. Please compare to your original post.
Your mind is the theater and you are the director.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
