'My' dynamics have changed ALOT. I would have NEVER not asked for a cookie, if I wanted one before, I would have taken one. I also would have NOT have ever, allowed him to retreat into his man cave, without chasing him begging to talk it out with me. I would have allowed him to continue to disrespect me (unknowingly). I would still be jumping at his demands. I would still be baited into his arguments. I have been learning to listen. I would still be under my blankets curled up in to fetal position. I have been willing to change.
There are many things "I" have changed. He is still mostly the same (a few exceptions).
I agree with you.... I need to continue to focus my time and energy spent on what will I do, if he never comes back.
I just find it so hard to believe that it really takes losing someone completely before they realize just how wonderful they had it.... I am really disappointed in this!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
