It's a really really really toxic way of dealing with things. It's horrible even. That's why I've set out to fix it.
Yes, it is. I lived my much of my life that way and it leads to a lot of pain.
I read some of your early posts from the last time you were here. Why do you want to save this marriage? I ask out of true curiosity. I was asked the same thing early on in my sitch and it was a wonderful question for reflection.
There have been multiple problems in your R and you don't have a lot of good to say about H(of course, I just skimmed, I may have missed something)so what makes you want to save this?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
