Wanted to ask - maybe a vet or someone else who has dealt with this can chime in.
When I validate by saying "I understand..." H gets FURIOUS and says "NO YOU DONT OR WE WOULDNT BE IN THIS POSITION."
What should I say to that?
None of us can really understand what another person is feeling. Is your anger management helping you with this type of communication? Reflective listening is a crapshoot. You have to really listen and respond in an authentic way, something like, "I can see that x was really important to you," or "tell me more about that," or just listen without responding other than to show you're interested.
You do like to push buttons. Why is that?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
