Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[rayzzz]

Thank for asking Sandi.
I am dbing and even began some 'do something completely out of character' behaviours:
1)Listen to her. shut up and stop taking it personally and reacting. Yesterday was the quietest I have been even as she snapped at me. so proud of my self control!
2)no shouting to communicate. This isnt yelling.Get within earshot of kids. Be calm when running late. Shouting means to her I am getting excited and mad (whether I am or not). Freaks her out. I am gonna stop living out my childhood
3)wake up at 7am. everyday. usually I wake up after 8am after she has left for work. teaching myself and her I am not lazy and can get some more work done bright and early. Kids are already asking "why are you awake so early"

going out for coffee with my soon to be WAW to discuss next months moving/separation...end of June. I dont think I have a chance to change her mind in 5 weeks. But I am learning to accept that and keep working on myself. Will tell kids next month too.Brutal for both of us.

I still have a goal in mind to build her a castle with my bare hands that my beauty can live in. Job applications are already sent out and I'm sure something will come in.

So my mood is optimistic today as what you say is true. I can't change the way she feels, she has to do it herself and this really takes the weight of all that anxiety off me. In spite of all this I love her now more than I have ever loved her....and thats why your (and MIchelle's) 37 rules have to be lived out well so I can receive her back to me.