Been a while, so I thought I'd post an update of my soap opera life I live in.
Past 3 weeks or so W has been very apologetic about everything and not cold to me like before. I wasn't sure if she's trying to be friends or something or what. Anyways two weeks ago she asks if I can come home from work because she's too emotional to watch the kids. When I get back she starts crying, hugs me, and tells me she still loves me. She just thought she was too damaged and she was stuck in this new life she created for herself. It was definitely emotional for me, but I have been down this road before with her, so I tried not to get too invested. She hadn't broken up with OM yet and I told her that for us to work and for me to stop the D she has to have no contact with him.
She breaks up with him the following day, but still hangs out with him over the next few days. Then he breaks up with her. This all seems so childish. She's still not over her feelings for him. She has no idea how to end a relationship and go no contact. Maybe it's the baby thing, idk.
Anyways we talk a lot more about everything. I express my concerns about how selfish she was, how she wouldn't watch the kids, and that she likes drama. She admitted to all of those things and told me while she loves the kids she's "not a kid person". And she enjoys being by herself in her apartment every night. Good Lord.
When we go out (this past Saturday) the OM somehow figures it out and texts her to have fun. OM also texts me a pic of her she had sent him previously, she must have given him my cell, idk. After our date she wants to meet a friend to take her home, and when she gets there she tells me that OM has been waiting at her place in his car. She sneaks into her apartment before he can see.
OM then leaves a letter on my car the next day detailing when the affair started (last July), where the affair happened. All the trash that my W would say about me to him. He said she's a sociopath with no empathy and he's glad he's done with her. Yeah, knowing all this stuff definitely hurts. The fact that she had such little respect for me as a person. He also ended the letter saying it would be better if me and W raised the kid and he won't have any contact with the kid. He'll only pay child support to W if the divorce goes through and it's proven it's his kid (his exact words were he'll see if he can provide for it). I know my W told him I filed the D, but I guess he doesn't believe it.
Anyways the couple of days following my W is stewing over how mad she is at OM, and I just feel like this is so dumb. She's in love with somebody else. A guy who's basically a psychopath, and acts like a child.
So this past Tuesday I told her I'm done. I don't see any improvement in her. There really isn't many qualities I see that benefit me for the future. I would really need her to change a lot about herself at this point, and I don't think it's possible.
She doesn't seem to be buying it as she continues being nice to me, cooking me dinner, kissing me on the forehead in front of the kids (which I have to tell her not to). She went to her counselor yesterday and she told me it went well. At the end her counselor told her to come back tomorrow because he's worried about her. WTF does that mean?
If anybody has some advice for me or can give me hope that she turn this around I would love to hear it.
