Probably mainly because I know I have NO chance. He had significant issues with me, there will be no way I can "win" as long as she is buzzing around in his head. Even withouth her in the picture it's going to be tough but at least there would be *some* chance..
^ This is where you work from. Whilst he is thinking about OW, yes, you have no chance. You'll see throughout the threads how OW is like a drug to his addiction, which is love and attention, something he wasn't getting from you and so sought from OW. Until he's over his withdrawals from that addiction, you sit tight. Once the addiction no longer controls him, you have a fighting chance. In the meantime, you're working on yourself and the "significant issues" he has with you.
You say you're not a patient person. Sounds like a good 180 to me.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
