Been reading a lot of prior posts and trying to find success stories. Interesting to see the various paths to success folks take. Some being hard nosed and others taking a much softer, patient approach. As I mentioned in my post above, I don't think that I am the type who can realistically go with a softer approach, I am just not patient and realistically, given our situation, I doubt I would 'win' in the end. Having said that, I do fear that I will live with regret and wonder if I had just been more patient things would have come around (because H started to believe some of my changes and/or things with the OW truly ended of their own accord).
I think there are a lot of factors to consider in any given situation. For instance, H tends to procrastinate in making big decisions. I've always been more of the driver/decision pusher in our R. I'm thinking this means that I probably should force his hand otherwise he will leave us in limbo indefinitely. Having said that, H does NOT respond well to threats/ultimatums or really confrontation in general (I mean who does?). So somehow I have to make sure I put things on the table in a 'this is what I need to move forward' way as opposed to 'do these things or else'. It's a fine line that he is VERY sensitve to.
Ugh, meanwhile, I'm assuming that he really will reach out to talk about R again as he said he wanted to. But maybe he won't and then I'll need to figure an alternate strategy. Probably go dark..
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
