We really spoke about what is going on with her for the first time yesterday, and I told her again that I would not give up on her, on us, or on our family. I think she finally heard me this time. I also told her that I knew there was an OM (likely EA, but I am not sure). I told her that I did not believe in adultery or divorce, but that I understood and would stand by her. She told me that she thought that was completely unfair to me; I explained that it was not up to her to define what I was willing to sacrifice for our family. Good solid day yesterday, and a good weekend ...
can any of you help me understand this manic energy thing?? it is very, very hard to watch someone you care about go through that ... thanks!
Supplication does not work, Canyou. Not only is this not a healthy position for YOU to take, but it will also cause your wife to lose respect (and therefore, attraction and ultimately LOVE) for you.
She's probably wondering why you are tolerating her affair, and not fighting harder for her. From your description of the issues, I would say that her "manic energy" is the LEAST of your problems right now!
