Just want to say, it's not just dad's who can lose their way. Just as much as dad's should be there, mom's should as well. I have been one of the "drop-off" dad's, haven't missed but a handful of school things in the 12 years my oldest has been in school and the 8 my youngest while my W has gone to almost none since she started down the MLC road 3 years ago. I know how it feels to be the only dad at school events sitting there alone amongst mom's or couples. I'm so much closer to the mom's of my D's friends because while I always made it to the events, my W hardly ever would and still doesn't. I have always been the one to take them to their dances or parties or sleepovers because my W never wanted to. Then she says the other parents "don't like" her. No, they just don't know her!
It's just another reminder that it's not anything we do or don't do, it's not our fault that our S's have become these selfish, needing to blame anyone (especially us!) for their unhappiness people. They are in the MLC fog and I really believe that if some of them ever did start to see how they did contribute to the problems in the M, saw how their actions have made it impossible for there to be any outcome but ending the M, they couldn't handle it. It would snap their ego and the guilt would crush them!
Easier to hide behind the victim wall. To change the past or make up things out of whole cloth to show the world what great people who have been so wronged they are. MLC is an equal opportunity mind killer.
By the way Broklyn, you sound like a great mother who wants only what's best for her kids and are doing the best you can in a bad sitch you didn't ask for. Keep being the great person you are and you can be sure your kids will see it and learn a wonderful lesson about how to stay strong no matter what life throws at them!
