Dealing with an ongoing affair

[PeterV2]

Thanks Sandi. There's a lot of things up in the air right now. Her mum leaving. Finding a live-in staff to do the nights at the RH (the candidate we had backed out). So her return home is still a ways off until we get those logistics worked out. In the meantime I do need reassurance that the A is over. I will ask her at an appropriate time in the next few days. I'll approach it lovingly, quietly, gently and at peer level, saying I need to feel safe in our R and in order to do that I need to know this info.
Hopefully she can appreciate my need and respond lovingly as well.
I believe she is still trying to figure out what she did and coming to terms with it. Her earlier admission that she's dishonored herself can be interpreted as remorse or at least a precursor to remorse. I agree that I need to still give her time and space. We haven't slept together for the past 2 nights and probably won't for a few nights more. She did say last night when we had dinner together that she was a little sore from our ML session on Saturday so she is being candid and open with me and comfortable enough. She's also going to book a session with our MC for the near future. She also told me last night that she loved me. She stayed at a girlfriends place the night before last and my imagination was going wild that she was with OM but I think that's just my vivid imagination and my past pain getting the better of me.